Twenty-five different things that I have learned over these twenty-five years, in no particular order.

  1. Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.
  2. People leave. And sometimes you can’t do anything about that.
  3. It is never good to soak in your own sadness.
  4. There is a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. And both can be easily avoided. Sometimes.
  5. Don’t let anyone make you believe that what you feel is invalid.
  6. Admitting that you have a problem doesn’t always lead to a solution. But it can help.
  7. Give it your all. Don’t be lukewarm.
  8. Falling in love is never easy. But you shouldn’t let one heartbreak stop you from loving again.
  9. Be comfortable with making mistakes. You can only learn more and grow from them.
  10. Building walls doesn’t mean that you’ll be protected. Sometimes the person you need protecting from is yourself.
  11. You need to decide what’s important to you.
  12. Somewhere in this world, someone is rooting for you.
  13. You make more of an impact than you tend to believe.
  14. Don’t lose sight of what you’re passionate about.
  15. Strive to be different. Strive to become the best version of you that has ever graced this planet.
  16. It’s okay to be sad.
  17. Reach out to people. They will listen.
  18. Be careful with what you say and do, before it becomes lost in translation.
  19. Love deeply and love fervently. Someone will thank you for that.
  20. Don’t give up on people.
  21. Don’t give up on yourself.
  22. Consistency is important.
  23. Late is better than never. Or so I hope.
  24. Everyone is born good.
  25. This is not the end.

Dear You, Pt. 25

dear you

You were always quiet, yet loud in your own way. With every passing day, your silence carried the weight of the world, while your steps were often light, and a smile was always etched onto your face. You didn’t allow yourself to sit and soak in your thoughts. The moment that you became idle and still, it was over. You were consumed by a darkness that only you believed that you could see. When others pointed this out and asked how you were feeling, you would brush off the help, thinking that telling someone your troubles would only burden them and cause them to run away away. But because of past experiences, you constructed a fortress around your heart, too traumatized to let anyone in. And that’s how you lived; at a distance. Letting people come close enough to see the pupils of your eyes, yet far enough to hide the trembling fear in your hands. You allowed other people to dictate how you should feel and whether what you were feeling was appropriate for that moment in time. But I hope that one day, you will have the courage to stand behind your feelings. That one day you will be able to truthfully confess if you are feeling sad or angry or depressed or that you want to disappear. Your feelings deserve attention, too.

Your feelings are not a burden, they are what make you,  you,