There are several things that I’ve learned after high school. One of them being that you never know who will remain in your life and who will naturally and silently leave. This is a given fact and occurrence that happens to everyone. At least that’s what I would like to believe. Losing some friends is unfortunate, but some relationships are unable to withstand the trials of time and distance. But there are those friends who consciously make the effort to stay. Although I may not see these friends for months, we’re able to pick up right where we left off, as if we had just seen each other the day before.
Recently, however, after the formal “Hello” and “How have you been?” there have been more questions concerning my love life. Whether I’m currently seeing someone, have interest in someone, pursuing someone, etc. And the fact of the matter is that I am not currently in any romantic relationship. And naturally their follow-up question is “Why?” And quite honestly, I’m pretty unsure myself. Sure, I give reasons that I’m not looking or that there is no one that really catches my eye. But there are attractive and charming people out there that obviously do catch my eye and fill my stomach with a swarm of butterflies. Or more accurately, a butterfly. Just one. However, I never seem to be able to muster up the courage to “simply” walk up to them and blatantly say “Hey, I think you’re beautiful, we should talk.” (Okay, that may be a little too forward, but you know what I mean.) So for the most part, aside from one or two “some” relationships, I have been single for a while now and I am okay with that.
That doesn’t mean that I don’t want to be in a relationship. If a potential significant other were to show interest in me, I would reciprocate that interest. Simple as that. But for now, I will continue to to master the art of being alone. Some people probably disagree that being alone or single would be categorized as an art. But I think it is. According to Merriam-Webster, the word ‘art’ is defined as “something that is created with imagination and skill and that is beautiful or that expresses important ideas and feelings.” Sure, having a significant other is great. But the absence of one should not stop you from doing things that you want to do; like watching a movie, going out for a walk, or going to the nearest coffee shop and actually sitting down, by yourself. There is no requirement in this world that in order to experience life you must have a significant other. And accepting that is truly an art. Just like any other form of art, the art of being alone requires patience, dedication, and moderate skill. And not everyone can master it, nor can everyone handle being alone. And it’s unfortunate. But realizing this fact has made the lull of relationships in my life that much more bearable. Being single has also helped me to realize certain facts about myself: my desire for sentimental conversations, my strange addiction to horror movies even though I get scared, and my insatiable thirst for wanderlust, just to name a few. Trying to perfect the art of being alone has lead me to learn more about myself and to develop the qualities that I had been lacking. And at the end of the day, I have a life to live, with or without a significant other. Life doesn’t stop for anyone, so I shouldn’t stop to wait for a significant other.
So I feel like for this particular post, I should put a TLDR. Here it goes.
TLDR; Although relationships are great, there is no requirement in the world that says in order to live out my life, I must have a significant other by my side. Being alone is an art because I am a beautiful collection of important ideas and feelings. And so are you.
(But if you have a friend that likes cats, listens to K-pop, and makes the decision to watch horror movies around midnight, then send them my way.)
(That was obviously a joke. I think.)